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The Commitment
Blueprint for Couples

28 Non-Negotiable Commitments That Transform Marriages

28
Commitments
4
Worksheets
5
Video Sessions

"A cord of three strands is not quickly broken." — Ecclesiastes 4:12

Video Sessions

Watch Your Sessions

Begin with the Welcome session, then work through each module in order — individually first, then together as a couple. Each session is designed to be watched before completing the corresponding worksheet.

Welcome & How to Use This Resource

Lloyd walks you through the heart behind the Commitment Blueprint — what these 28 commitments are, why they matter, and how to use each worksheet to get the most out of this experience individually and together.

7 Personal Commitments for Conflict Resolution

The private decisions you make before conflict begins determine everything. These 7 commitments are made to yourself — and they are the foundation of how you show up when disagreement enters the room.

7 Joint Commitments for Conflict Resolution

What you agree on together as a couple before conflict arrives changes how conflict plays out. These 7 commitments are declared together, honored together, and revisited together.

7 Personal Commitments for a Happy, Healthy Marriage

A healthy marriage is built by two whole individuals. These 7 internal commitments — made privately and kept consistently — shape the person you bring into the marriage every single day.

7 Joint Commitments for a Happy, Healthy Marriage

These are the shared declarations of two people who have chosen — deliberately, covenantally, and without condition — to build something that lasts. Read them together. Sign them together. Live them together.

Your Worksheets

Download & Complete

Each worksheet corresponds to one module. Complete the personal worksheets individually and honestly. Complete the joint worksheets together as a couple — read each commitment aloud, discuss, then sign.

Worksheet 1 · Module 1

7 Personal Commitments for Conflict Resolution

"A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." — Proverbs 15:1

↓ Download Worksheet 1
Worksheet 2 · Module 2

7 Joint Commitments for Conflict Resolution

"Do not let the sun go down on your anger." — Ephesians 4:26

↓ Download Worksheet 2
Worksheet 3 · Module 3

7 Personal Commitments for a Happy, Healthy Marriage

"Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life." — Proverbs 4:23

↓ Download Worksheet 3
Worksheet 4 · Module 4

7 Joint Commitments for a Happy, Healthy Marriage

"A cord of three strands is not quickly broken." — Ecclesiastes 4:12

↓ Download Worksheet 4

Download the Complete Commitment Blueprint

All 28 commitments across all 4 worksheets in one master PDF — print it, sign it together, and keep it somewhere you will both see it.

↓ Download Complete Blueprint (All 4 Worksheets)

The 28 Commitments

What You Are Committing To

These are not rules imposed from outside. They are the daily decisions of two people who have chosen — deliberately, covenantally, and without condition — to build something that lasts.

Personal — Conflict Resolution

  1. I will never fight to win — I will fight to resolve.
  2. I will manage my emotions before I open my mouth.
  3. I will take full responsibility for my contribution to every conflict.
  4. I will never weaponize what my spouse shared in vulnerability.
  5. I will choose the marriage over being right.
  6. I will repair quickly — regardless of who started it.
  7. I will never threaten the covenant during conflict.

Joint — Conflict Resolution

  1. We will never fight to destroy — we will fight to understand.
  2. We will never threaten the covenant — under any circumstances.
  3. We will repair before the sun goes down.
  4. We will speak about each other with honor — publicly and privately.
  5. We will pray together — not just about each other separately.
  6. We will seek help before the damage becomes irreversible.
  7. We will choose the marriage — daily, deliberately, and without condition.

Personal — Happy, Healthy Marriage

  1. I will keep growing as a person.
  2. I will take full responsibility for my own happiness.
  3. I will know myself deeply and honestly.
  4. I will guard my mind against everything that corrupts covenant love.
  5. I will not expect my spouse to read my mind.
  6. I will bring my best self home — not my leftover self.
  7. I will choose gratitude over grievance — daily.

Joint — Happy, Healthy Marriage

  1. We will prioritize each other above every competing relationship.
  2. We will create a safe place for each other's truth.
  3. We will pursue each other — permanently.
  4. We will honor each other's love language — not our own preference.
  5. We will protect our intimacy — emotionally and physically.
  6. We will build a shared spiritual life — not parallel private ones.
  7. We will never stop fighting for this marriage — especially when it is hardest.
Lloyd Allen

Lloyd Allen

Marriage Educator · Family Coach · Theologian

Lloyd Allen is the founder of Fixing Marriage Academy, Inc. and the voice behind MrMarriage.com. Trained as a Marriage and Family Therapist at Barry University, Lloyd brings 30 years of professional experience in marriage and family education — integrating Scripture, neuroscience, and practical application to help couples build the marriages God designed them to have. The Commitment Blueprint was written for every couple who is tired of knowing what they should do — and is ready to commit to actually doing it.

Go Deeper

What to Do Next

Conflict Resolution Course

The Commitment Blueprint gives you the commitments. This full course gives you the complete framework for how to resolve conflict without destroying what you are building.

Start the Course →

Communication Course

Most conflict is a communication breakdown in disguise. The 10 Essential Communication Skills course gives you the tools to say what you need — and hear what your spouse actually means.

Start the Course →

Marriage Discussion Guide

221 questions across 15 categories — the conversations every couple needs to have and most never do. The natural companion to the Commitment Blueprint.

Access the Guide →

Book a Coaching Call

Work directly with Lloyd to process what the Blueprint surfaced and build a personalized plan for where your marriage goes from here.

MrMarriage.com →

"These are not rules imposed from outside. They are the daily decisions of two people who have chosen — deliberately, covenantally, and without condition — to build something that lasts."

— Lloyd Allen | Marriage Educator · Family Coach · Theologian